Are you getting ready for Black Friday? Before you join in the frenzy of holiday gift buying, just consider for a minute the results of a legendary research study.

In 1978 researchers presented a sample of adults a list of 24 big-ticket items such as a car, travel, a house, and so on. They were asked how many of these items they already possessed and which things on the list were part of having “the good life” as they would define it. 16 years later, in 1994, the same people were interviewed again with the same questions and presented with the same list.

Result: In 1978, the study participants felt that “the good life” would require having more things than they possessed at that time. Those in their twenties had in average 1.7 things from the list but thought they needed 4.4 items for “the good life”. 16 years later, the participants had more objects acquired (3.1 items in average) and thus were closer to their original wishes, but now they thought they needed even more stuff (in average 5.6 items) to have a “good life”.

In summary, having more possessions didn’t really change the difference between “Have already” and “Want to Have”, leading to the conclusion: The More We Have, The More We Want.

If you want to know what to give for Christmas that actually could increase happiness, stay tuned. Next time, I will write about “Gifts that spread Joy and Happiness”.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Christiane Turnheim is a Life& Career Coach and a psychology teacher at a Community College in the Boston area. You can reach her at ten.u4hcaocnull@miehnrutc.

Did you already bake cookies, and made jam ? Are you out of ideas what else to give during the holiday season?  Here a few gifts that won’t cost you a fortune:

 Do you like to cook and have great recipes?

1. You could buy a nice notebook or folder, and create a personalized recipe book for a dear friend or family member.
2. Give a coupon for a five course dinner at your house – or
3. Promise to cook for an event at their house.
4. Buy ingredients for a not-your-every-day family meal and add your special recipe.

For avid gardeners:

1. Give a coupon or gift certificate for a plant, seeds, or fruits from your garden. Add a picture, if you have.
2. If you have seeds from last summer, purchase a pretty box or bag and fill it with seeds and planting instructions.
3. Give your time and experience: Friends or colleagues without green thumb will appreciate a coupon for “garden consulting” – or
4. Give a certificate for “spring cleaning”

Do you need a gift for a couple with young children?

1. Give a coupon for x number of babysitting nights
2. Invite the kids for a weekend in your house
3. Offer your time for help with afternoon activities
4. Organize a party for all the kids of your friends (so that they can spend some grown-up time together)

Do you have an elderly loved-one, friend or neighbor?

Give the gift of your time by giving them a coupon for help with shopping,  rides to medical appointments or a day out in the country.

Christiane is a professional life coach with private practice in Massachusetts. She specializes on helping people on realizing their goals and putting them into action.